Tough Times in Our New Life. Does this get easier?

13 Sep

Let me tell you a little bit about me and my situation. If this sounds like something your going through you might want to stick around and see if this blog can help you in your situations.

I was recently married to my other half who happens to be enlisted military in the U.S.A.F. He just returned to me from a 16 month tour overseas. Needless to say I missed him!! We are slowly getting reaquainted with each other which proves to be a little difficult but NEVER impossible. I am so proud of him and what he does it makes me feel privileged to be his wife and support system. However it is a little rough being thrown into the military system.

 As an example, two days after our wedding we left for a two week training session. I decided to go with him to spend more time together. That time I wanted to spend with him turned into time spent with my television set. Needless to say I was getting a little restless, I couldnt wait to leave!! After our never ending two weeks FINALLY ended, we drove back to my hometown. A day after arriving home, we drove to the airport for our honeymoon, DISNEY WORLD!! It was so nice to get to enjoy each other fully without military or family interruptions! Of course that trip went a lot faster then Texas, because that’s how it works :). Two days after we arrived back home we drove from my hometown in Arizona, all the way to our new duty stations which is in….duh duh duh North Dakota. 25 hours on the road…..yuck.

We have successfully gotten to our duty station, however………. we are told there are no houses or apartments for rent for the next month to two months, and base housing isn’t available for another 6-9 months. Let me tell you the main part of our dilemma, the military gives you 5 paid days to find a place, get approved, sign the lease, and move in. We stayed at a hotel for the first week which was exhausting because we have a full car of things that we packed in two days so needless to say it wasnt a very well thought out packing process. After our week at a hotel we were blessed to find some of our friends and they agreed to let us stay with them until we found a place but we only have one month. We found an apartment that can get us in a month, but we had to come up with $895 for a deposit and $895 for our rent for the first month!!! IN NORTH DAKOTA???!!!! Either way we dont have much of a choice, so I am crazy scrambling for a job so we can get into this place!! If I could offer you any advice months before you transfer anywhere, SAVE SAVE SAVE!! You can’t save too much money. However, as my husband says “we have each other.” So if you are going through a tough time, just remember that you married the love of your life, and things will work out if you just work at them, and the most important thing is that you have each other.

So to answer my own question, I guess it does get better, you just need patience and determination and a good support system in your marriage. No matter how new or old your marriage is, that is your partner, trust in each other that you can make it through, and just make the best of the time you have together looking for homes and planning new things. You never know when your military spouse will have to leave on orders or when your lives will speed up again. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes dealing with perseverance

Nobody trips over mountains.  It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble.  Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.”  ~Author Unknown

w/love and perseverance

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